Days of Our Lives, I respect myself too much to continue our relationship.


I was a Days of Our Lives fangirl. I loved it, looked forward to it, and socialized with people specifically on the topic. Days made me happy. I called it a guilty pleasure but never actually felt guilty about loving it. Not anymore.

Recently I stopped feeling entertained and started to feel insulted. Yes, by a TV show, I felt insulted.

I felt like I was squirming in an uncomfortable chair in a car dealership while NBC up-sold the value of Good Cop over Bag Guy. No matter how unconvincing the arguments, the sellers spoke loudly and ignored all my pleas for reason and canon.

I felt like Will Horton was being used to sell a trend rather than truly bring light to the struggle that homosexual youth face when coming out.

Days spent weeks on the young Horton’s struggle only to 1. Brush off Tad the (literally) gay bashing ex-best friend as though his behavior was par, expected, and worst of all acceptable. 2. Put Will back in bed with Gabi because he was sad. All the deep conversations and realizations that led him to this apex in his life meant nothing? Oh, no. He’s still gay and that sex was just for… Fact is, if he’s going to be WITH someone, it’ll be someone with girl parts. Interesting version of “gay.”

Previously, I’d been willing to accept that Nicole was too scared of EJ to admit that he truly has been a good father to his other children and might not be the worst thing for her baby. However, after all of this, we now have the two men who had been friends and supporters of Nicole turning to chase other women. She’s been kind to both of them but not sleeping with them.

Did NBC realize that as soon as the doctors told Nicole she couldn’t have sex with Daniel she was obsolete and less desirable to him? Good thing he already lined up the excuse of focusing on his daughter (who is now gone). Dodged a bullet, Doctor.

Rafe seemed to get tired of having just a good friend. Especially since that friend recently told him she wanted Dan. So, bored Rafe he did a complete 180 and chased Sami again.

Life is empty without a willing vagina.

Abby’s father died and she became a bipolar sex fiend, throwing herself at Dr. SuperChin1 and making sad faces. She has been more upset over the break up with the Doctor than the death of her father. Oh, women and their priorities.

Gabi never needed to redeem herself for literally being the cause of the DAYSaster because Chad flipped his shit and became a visible super villain—a man with anger directed towards a woman is always wrong and a horrible person.

The final straw for me was seeing that once again, a woman will be punished by pregnancy. First, why doesn’t anyone on Daytime TV believe in contraception. Second, Parenthood Should Never Be A Punishment. This is a child that is now specifically unwanted and symbolic of mistakes and carelessness and weakness. This is a child that will have parents who weren’t ready or willing. This is a child not a yard stick. You do not punish people by giving them children 2.

And on the flip side of that coin, Nicole is still being punished and mocked for being sexually abused by her father. Sami throws her porn past in her face every chance she gets but never acknowledges that she was in that situation against her will. It’s not a funny or mockable thing and it’s not her crime to atone for.

Nicole, no matter what she does right or how much she’s actually changed, she’s constantly punished by losing her child.

The woman is DESPRATE to have a baby and just love it unconditionally and she is punished by losing her child. Repeatedly.

I expect a soap opera to be over the top and even a bit nonsensical but Days of Our Lives has just become damaging and far from entertaining. We fight so hard for women’s rights, gay rights, and to stop bullying only to see this show act as though these things are rumors from tiny, insular communities in far away lands.

The lack of respect for real-world issues and the total disregard for what happened before and logical steps to what’s happening now or next like I’m some idiot goldfish is just too much to bear.

The show doesn’t make sense, doesn’t respect the real people or issues it reflects, doesn’t respect me as a viewer, and isn’t entertaining anymore.

  1. I seriously don’t know his name…
  2. Look how well that turned out for Will Horton who spent the spring and summer trying to destroy his own mother for being a shit mother.

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